Imagine you were born left-handed, but you were raised to think you're right-handed.
Maybe you don't need to imagine; maybe this is actually what happened to you.
Imagine that you were forced to use your right hand for everything, despite being a lefty, and maybe you didn't even know you were a lefty, because you always used your right hand. Why would it even occur to you to try your left hand, if you just always use your right?
Again, maybe you don't need to imagine; maybe this is actually what happened to you.
Now imagine that at some point in your life, you realize you're actually left-handed, and you start using your left hand and realize, "wow, this is SO much easier! WHY have I not been doing this my whole life?"
And imagine you mention this to your friends, and they start to ask you questions like:
- "When did you decide to be left-handed?"
- "When did you become left-handed?"
- "Why don't you like being right-handed?"
And imagine they introduce you to their friends, saying:
- "[name] used to be right-handed, but now they're left-handed!"
It doesn't work that way, right?
You never *became* left-handed, and you certainly never *chose* to be left-handed....
You were, quite simply, *always* left-handed, even when you wrote with your right hand.
It's just that nobody realized it before.
Everyone thought you were right-handed, because they only ever saw you write with your right hand. But actually, they were all wrong - you're left-handed, and always have been, despite being forced to write with your right.
Can you imagine this?
(Maybe it's even what happened to you?)
Now replace the word "right-handed" with "boy," and replace the word "left-handed" with "girl," and you'll understand my gender transition a bit better.
I have always been a girl. It's just that nobody ever knew it, because I was raised to be a boy, and I didn't seriously question that until I was an adult.
But I have always been a girl. And now I'm actually living it.
I didn't choose to be a girl.
I wasn't a boy until I became a girl.
I didn't just wake up one morning and think, "hey, I think I'll change my gender today!"
I was always a girl, but only now does everyone know it.
Just like a lefty who was forced to use their right-hand, until they decided to embrace being a lefty.